Be Good to Yourself: You Are Important!
Right about now you are probably experiencing a multitude of feelings and emotions. Feeling you are important and that you really matter is probably not one of the thoughts foremost in your mind when divorcing. “You are important” needs to become your mantra if you are to weather the divorce storm without permanent damage.
If you are consistently tired, stressed, over-eating/under-eating, experiencing massive mood swings, or just feel lousy in general; it is time to rethink how you have been dealing with your divorce. You cannot be at your best and think straight if you are experiencing these symptoms. To help prevent or remedy these conditions, maintain good health and hygiene by practicing these “be good to yourself” basics.
Get Regular Medical Checkups and Treatment
Stay up-to-date on your checkups – do not put off your physical well being. If you are covered with medical insurance, schedule those needed appointments or procedures.
Emotional well-being is also important. It is okay and normal to feel emotions both positive and negative. But if you start to experience significant anxiety or depression, seek out a support group or a therapist. Do not wait to seek support or treatment. Out-of-control emotions can interfere with your ability to make good choices during this critical decision making period.
Eat a Healthy Diet
Many people going through divorce experience unusual weight gain or loss. It is not uncommon to forget to eat or do the opposite by filling up on snacks and junk food. Stress affects people differently. Eat healthy well balanced meals and stay away from the high calorie snacks and fast foods. Drink lots of water and juices.
Avoid Starting Bad Habits
You may be tempted to start some bad habits such as smoking, drinking, or using drugs to help with depression or stress. These are not the solution to feeling better. They can have the opposite effect by creating a dependency problem.
Regular exercise can help reduce stress and improve sleep. Physical exercise, especially aerobic exercise, produces endorphins. These chemicals in the brain act as natural painkillers. Maintain a regular weekly exercise schedule. Walking, swimming, or going to the gym are all good choices. If you need to let off steam, kickboxing might be a good activity! Exercise early or mid-day for better sleep.
Sleep is Important
If lack of sleep has been a problem, try changing your bedtime routine. Do you shower in the morning? Try a hot bath or shower before bedtime. Change the sleep environment by making the bedroom lighter/ darker, cooler/warmer, silent or add soothing background music. Don’t watch anything upsetting on television before going to bed. Stop drinking liquids two hours before sleep and keep noisy pets in another part of the house. If you need a new pillow, buy one. Being well rested is critical to good health.
Maintain Good Hygiene
Shower and change your clothes regularly. Periodic haircuts are a must. See the dentist one to two times a year. When you need a mood boost, try a manicure.
Make Time for Fun
Live in the present. Do things that bring you pleasure and make you laugh. Schedule time with friends and see them often. Force yourself to go out and do things, especially new things.
Don’t Make Any Quick Important Decisions
Take time to think through the consequences of a decision logically rather than emotionally. Seek expert advice on financial decisions from a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® (CDFA™). Give yourself time to consider and review your options before making a decision.
Manage Your Expectations
Evaluate your expectations to determine which are based on logical realities versus emotions. No matter how much you want the house, it may not be a good decision. Your Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® (CDFA ™) expert can educate and advise you on settlement options that consider your best interests now and for the future.
Remember, be good to yourself
You are important to your family, your friends, and most of all to yourself. Take ownership for your own emotional well-being during times of adversity. Nurture your emotional, physical, and spiritual beauty to be the best that you can be.